If thoughts lead to feelings, and feelings lead to actions… then I want to have some sort of control over my feelings, so that I feel good, and act in a way that’s in line with my values.
How, though? Right? That’s what you are asking. There are so many models and method out there you could be reading forever. And what are the chances of it sticking? And, you remembering to use it? We’ve spent years allowing negative, or unsupportive thoughts become our automatic negative thoughts. Changing that is hard. It takes time. And effort. And practice.
We are often so busy, and caught up in our everyday lives that we forget to practice our new methods, and our new way of thinking and controlling our thoughts.
“You need to learn how to select your thoughts just the same way you select your clothes every day. This is a power you can cultivate” Elizabeth Gilbert
Apply a trigger. Use something to remind you to check in with yourself, check your thoughts, what are you telling yourself? I use stickers when I am at my desk. I place small round yellow dots on one or two prominent places where I work; e.g. the phone or the side of my monitor. Every time I clock those stickers, I try to check in with myself. I ask myself, what am I thinking right now. Is it positive or negative? Is it supportive? Is it TRUE? Do I need to change it? Or release it? Or do I need to reframe it so it sits better with me?
Of course, every now and then I have to change the location of the sticker, because I get too accustomed to it in it’s current place, and don’t notice it often enough!
Do you use triggers to remind you to check in with your thoughts? What do you use? Share them in the comments below
And if you don’t use them, I invite you to try it out.